Stick with Love, Self-Love

Martin Luther King, Jr. was referring to opposing forces when he said, “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” This is one of my all time favorite quotes. I hold a deep belief that light is always bigger than dark; forgiveness takes far more courage than anger; and that while the path can feel slower and harder, love always wins over fear and hate. These values hold strong and true when I think of the discourse of the world. But, today for the first time I read this quote and thought about how I could apply it to myself. I immediately stopped in my tracks.

For years my self-hatred was so deep, and the burden of that hatred was so heavy. On the outside I tried to appear like everything was OK. I led with my ego, and fed it constantly to cover the amount I didn’t like myself. If I had the right look, the right job, the right friends, the right boyfriend – then I would love myself. By all outside appearances, I had quite the high self-esteem and sense of worth. On the inside, I beat myself up over the smallest of things. I lived in constant anxiety and fear that someone would see the façade to the truth. I believed the truth was that I was unworthy of love.

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Flowers can’t grow without rain. It’s OK to cry.

Research shows us that being positive is good for our overall health. Positivity can build immunity, lower stress and even increase lifespan. The benefits are amazing.

However, did you know that being positive doesn’t mean that you need to be happy all the time? Many people confuse being positive with not feeling negative emotion. Emotions are part of being human. We feel joy, pain, gratitude, anger, sorrow, love, grief, faith, fear and many more. We need to feel all of these feelings to move forward in life – to continue to grow.

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