When was the last time that you asked yourself out? We live in a day where we are constantly connected to other people, our phones, social media, open floor plans at offices. If you’re single, you swipe right to meet someone. If you’re in a relationship, you’re synching your smartphone calendars to find a time that works.
It’s important to slow down the pace and have some time just for you. In my early 30s, I found myself single (again) and was given some of the best advice of my life – I was told to date myself. Mind-blowing.
Many of my relationships were doomed from the start because I was a stranger to myself. I hardly knew how to share my interests because I didn’t even know my own interests. Enter self. No one to hide behind or mold my interest to. What do I want for dinner? What movie would I like to see? What do I want to do?
Just like all great loves, the early love affair was magical – museums, gelato, beach, nice restaurants. I swept myself off my feet and my heart filled with joy. The relationship we have with self can only grow more loving as we feed our true essence. When we honor ourselves, we flourish in our other relationships.
Single or married, put away your phone, block some time on your calendar and take your self out on the town. Today my self dates are a little more low-key, but I’ve fallen more in love with each passing day.
Looking for ideas? Dating yourself can fit any budget.
- Try a new restaurant
- Go to your favorite spot in nature (If it’s remote, stay safe! Let someone know where and when you’re going.)
- Visit an exhibit or museum
- Catch a movie
- Bring a book to the park
- Book a local spa appointment
Share some of your ideas or favorite dates in the comments below!